A while back, I changed up my meditation practice a bit and started to practice in a way that took out the striving, the "doing" of meditation and turned it into more of an "undoing." This subtle change in my perspective with my practice has been so helpful. It also infuses my practice with compassion as I take the goal-orientedness out of my practice and just sit with myself, just as I am, on any given day. Just as I am, with nothing to change, nothing to fix, nothing to accomplish. The results have had a huge impact on my life, my happiness and my ability to handle stressful situations (which the stressful situations will always be there).
Here is a helpful text from Bob Sharples' book, Meditation: Calming the Mind.
“Don’t meditate to fix yourself, to heal yourself, to improve yourself, to redeem yourself; rather, do it as an act of love, of deep warm friendship to yourself. In this way, there is no longer any need for the subtle aggression of self-improvement, for the endless guilt of not doing enough. It offers the possibility of an end to the ceaseless rounds of trying so hard that wraps so many people’s lives in a knot. Instead, there is now meditation as an act of love. How endlessly delightful and encouraging.”
I will be planning an online (live on Zoom) version of my 6 week Course In Mindfulness in January. This will be an opportunity to re-energize or start a practice. There are so many ways to practice mindfulness meditation and this course will give you tools for practice. It is so important, now more than ever, to have a daily practice of self-care. I hope you'll join me.