Waiting to exhale?

Not everything is a mindset problem. Some things are nervous system fatigue.

When uncertainty drags on long enough, hope itself becomes exhausting.

If you have been between jobs, waiting on an offer, navigating layoffs, caregiving, illness, or big life changes, you might recognize this feeling. You want to stay positive. You try meditation, try to reframe, exercise, manifest...and yet there is a quiet weariness underneath it all.

That is not failure. That is your nervous system doing its job.

When something you care deeply about remains unresolved for a long time, your body learns that getting your hopes up, hurts. So, it starts to brace, to tighten. This is not pessimism. It's protection.

In the world of yoga, meditation and postive psychology there can be a lot of subtle "spiritual gaslighting."

“If you were more aligned, this would have been resolved by now.”

“If you believed harder, the outcome would be different.”

“If you just raised your vibration…”

(p.s. These are three things you would never hear me say at yoga, a wellness event or a retreat....promise! 🤗 )

Some chapters do not end because we "mastered" our thoughts. They end because circumstances change. You can visualize and meditate all you want, you still need a company to say yes, a market to open, a door to be unlocked from the outside.

Here is something gentler and more honest that many of us need to hear:

You are allowed to deeply want relief.

You are allowed to be tired of waiting.

You are allowed to hope and brace at the same time.

That is not a lack of faith. That is what it looks like to be human in a long, uncertain chapter.

If you are in one of those in between spaces right now; please hear this...

you are not doing it wrong. You are responding to something that has been hard for a long time.

And that deserves compassion, not correction.

Be well.

#compassion #wellness #selfcare #easydoesit